The One Left Behind
Today our precious “Kayden” met his adoptive family. That means that Aaron is the only boy available for adoption at the institution- and he ages out at the end of this year! SEVEN of our boys have been advocated for and are now living in families. SEVEN boys who were once lost are now found.
Aaron is the only one left behind who has the chance for a family. I wrote this post a couple of years ago. Will you please help me share Aaron’s face? He is so in need of the love of a mama and daddy.
Today I want to help you get to know our precious Aaron.
I haven’t done much advocating specifically for him. Out of all of our boys who are available for adoption you probably know him the least. That’s my fault. My faith has been small.
This is the thing: some kids are really easy to write about. Every picture you take of them is adorable and people can’t get enough of their cuteness. Maybe they smile all the time and our cameras seem to find them on every visit. I can’t keep cuteness like that to myself! It just wouldn’t be right! 😉
Other kids are more difficult to write about. Maybe they don’t photograph well, or maybe they just never sit still long enough for anyone to capture more than a blur of movement. Maybe their behaviors are really difficult to manage and it’s hard to know what to say. Maybe there aren’t many cute stories to share…maybe none of their history is known so it’s hard to paint a whole picture.
Aaron is one who has been difficult to write about. I haven’t quite known what to say.
One of my biggest concerns with advocacy is that I want to be very, very certain that I am writing with honesty. I have nightmares about adoptive families arriving at the institution, meeting their child for the first time and saying to me “You didn’t tell me this!” I know that adoptive families can never truly understand what our boys are like, or what Romaniv is until they arrive and see it firsthand: smell the smells, hear the sounds, feel the pain. But I’d like them to at least feel that I was honest in my description of the son they have fought so hard to rescue.
Because of that, it’s more difficult to advocate well for a child like Aaron.
He’s so difficult to photograph. His behaviors are extremely tricky to manage. He is not liked by many of the orphanage staff. His quality of life is so poor, I can’t even accurately describe it. He is loud. When we first met he was like a wild animal: a sensory-seeking boy in a sensory-deprived environment. His life is pure nothingness so he searches for sensory input however he can get it. If that means he has to literally climb up a team member’s body to get their attention, he’ll do it. He absolutely LOVES water, but never gets access to it, so we have spent many a visit with one team member’s sole task being to keep Aaron from ripping the sink apart in his desperate attempt to feel the water.
He needs so much more than he is getting- in every single area of his life.
But the thing is, all the reasons that make advocacy difficult are the reasons why Aaron needs a voice maybe more than any of the other boys who are available to be adopted.
It’s almost impossible to get a good picture of him. But I think he is absolutely beautiful.
He is loud and he screams and he has no words. I hear the plea of a baby boy asking for his mommy. I hear a sweet little boy whose voice is never heard. I hear a child crying to be rescued.
He is a wild man who drives the nannies absolutely crazy with his quest for sensory input. I see a little boy who is desperate for a big backyard and a dog and a hose on a sunny day. I see a sweet soul who needs to be able to swing for hours on end, feel the wind in his face and the grass under his toes.
God has given us a very special love for our boys that goes beyond reason. It’s a supernatural love that could only come from him. He gave us mommy and daddy love that sees the beauty of our boys, even when they do things that would not be considered beautiful, or even cute. He gave this love to us so that we would have the umph and the passion and the drive to fight for them. He gave us voices so that we could speak for the voiceless. He made us totally biased, because our boys need people who are on their side and are completely biased for them.
I am biased in my love for Aaron. It’s true!
So today I speak for Aaron and I tell you that he is a treasure. He has boundless energy and so much curiosity. He wants to learn and soak in all that life has to offer. And this most precious treasure is desperate for a family. His situation is dire. He is unwanted and disliked and abused…and soon his time will run out. I want to talk all about the ways I believe he would change in a family, but I need to tell you how he is right now, because I can’t know he will or won’t change. A family that chooses him needs to come in with eyes wide open and love him just as he is.
See my boy. Please see him. Imagine if he was rescued and brought into a family where he could get love and care. No doubt it will be a difficult road to walk, and the adoptive family will need to be prepared to devote a lot of time to Aaron, but oh my, it will be so worth it! To watch him come to life would be an absolute miracle to behold. The parents who get that privilege are blessed indeed. I know from experience. 🙂
God knew Aaron before he was even born. He saw him in his mother’s womb and formed him there. He created him for purpose and destiny. He is as valuable as you. He is as valuable as me. He is as worth it as my Ezra, my Seth, my Vladik. He is someone’s son- they just don’t know it yet. He shouldn’t be spending his summers sleeping on a mattress to avoid attention and abuse. He should be running in the sprinkler and going down slides and eating Popsicles. Why not? He’s just a little boy. A little boy in a desperate situation.
So, please pray and please share. Please pause and ask the Lord how you should respond to Aaron. Don’t dismiss him because he sounds difficult, please. He is made in the image of God and he will bring blessing and joy to some lucky family’s home. Maybe yours?
You can read more about Aaron and donate toward the cost of his adoption here. Interested families are welcome to contact me with questions at email@example.com