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Fighting for My Babies

Posted on December 8, 2015 by kimnjed

Jed and I heard the news that there were a couple of new arrivals at the orphanage and we rushed there to meet them. The faces we saw that day changed us forever.

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Isaiah

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Sweet Ben and Isaiah, six-year old boys in baby bodies, lying in their cribs, unaware of all the concern swirling around them.

The nannies were afraid. Isaiah wouldn’t eat from a spoon and they had no bottles available for them. After all, we’re talking about an institution for men and boys, not for fragile babies.

They tried to take their time to feed the little ones properly, but time is just not something the nannies have much of to spare. Twenty other boys/men with severe needs were yelling and moaning from behind the shut doors of our little baby hideaway, so even though they cared, the nannies simply had to move on, shutting and locking the door behind them for the safety of the wee ones.

Our family left for a week to go work at a camp, and when we rushed back at the end of the month to see our babies, we were devastated. They were withering away right before our eyes. Of course they were. Babies, children, teenagers, adults, no one is meant to be locked behind a door, in a crib 24 hours a day. Our hearts sunk. Something had to be done.

As fast as we could we hired a special nanny to take care of just those two babies. She would give them her full attention 12 hours a day: feeding them, changing them, holding them, loving them. She would save them. Then another partner, Bible Orphan Ministry, hired a second nanny to care for them so that every day of the week, for 12 hours they would not be alone. They would be treasured.

And boy oh boy are they treasured! Those two nannies love, love, love Ben and Isaiah. Last spring when Ben was on the verge of life and death they cried and rocked him and cried some more, knowing they could not save him. And then praise God, he sent the team from Humedica to literally save Ben’s life with a specially prescribed diet. He is not thriving, but he is not dying. I know it is not enough, but until he is adopted it is the very best we can do for him. So we still pray for God to send a family to his rescue.

Now the nannies cry again, hearts broken. The doctor has told them that our sweet Isaiah is losing his sight. No no no. How can this be? There is no answer as to why, no timeline for how fast. We do see that he is tracking less and less, and we cry.

Isaiah is light and joy and pure sweetness. He knows his name and when you enter his room and call out to him his whole body responds with joy. He laughs and is ticklish and loves to be held. He is a boy, but he is a baby. If I could, I would take him home in a minute, so confident am I that he will bring unspeakable joy to a family.

He has cerebral palsy and has never had any kind of therapy, unless you count visiting physical therapists who have come to lend their expertise. (THANK YOU!!) He has the beginning of contractures in one leg and the nannies worry. And now it seems he is losing his sight. We are heartbroken.

Can you imagine laying in bed 12 hours a day, unable to get up, and then falling into darkness? I know all the sounds he hears and I know he must be so frightened. Ben too. They are completely helpless, completely reliant on others to feed them, clothe them, protect them. How will he keep that beautiful smile if the whole world turns black? I can’t even fathom. My mommy heart is devastated and it takes everything in me not to jump on a plane today and go to him.
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I’ll be honest. Isaiah’s only hope is adoption. Ben’s only hope is adoption. The special nannies, the special food, all of it is a temporary solution. It is the best we can do under the circumstances, but it is not nearly enough. We know this. Their quality of life is poor. Okay, they aren’t dying at this moment, but they aren’t living either. We absolutely love these boys like we love the 5 children under our roof. And I say that this life they have right now is not good enough. Our Havalah is 6. Would I be satisfied with her having attention and love 12 hours a day and then being bound to a crib surrounded by moans and screams and cries the other 12, the door locked for her protection? Would I be okay if I learned she was going blind? Would I be content to let her fall into darkness?

No. I would fight for her.

I would scream for her.

I would cry out and fight and petition until I found someone to help her. Someone to rescue her.

And so I do for my babies across the sea.

I can’t be with them. I can’t hold them. I can’t rescue them.

But I can fight for them. I can petition for them until I find someone to rescue them.
Please, please share my babies. Isaiah is falling into darkness. He needs a family now. Please see him.

Ben is a 6 year old in a 12 pound body. He needs a family now. Please see him.

If you have considered adoption, please do not wait. Sometimes it is a matter of life and death. This is one of those times.

Havalah and Isaiah

Havalah and Ben

Defend the weak and the fatherless; uphold the cause of the poor and the oppressed. Psalm 82:3

Yes, adoption is a huge decision and a hard road. But right now I’m looking across the table at my Vladik and can tell you with all confidence that it is worth it. Would our lives be easier if we didn’t have Vladik? Of course!!! But I know where he would be right now if he wasn’t at my kitchen table. My heart can’t even handle that truth. In the light of that, the “ease” of my life seems pretty insignificant. These babies are worth our discomfort. Just as Jesus came to us, we are to go near the broken on his behalf.

Please pray and ask God how you should respond to Isaiah and Ben. Please don’t just move on. They are worth fighting for.

If you have any questions about either boy or the adoption process itself, please don’t hestitate to ask. You can leave a comment here or email me at kjohnson@wideawakeinternational.org.

The Most Important Post, Revisited

Posted on November 3, 2015 by kimnjed

November is a good month. We have two family birthdays, it’s Thanksgiving, the holiday season begins, the weather is cozy, and it’s National Adoption Month! Did you know? Have you heard? There is a whole month designated for sharing about the plight of orphans and the blessing of adoption. Yep, that sounds just about perfect to me.

I wrote this post last November. I wanted to share it again (revamped a bit) in honor of National Adoption Month. It’s crazy because when I wrote this a year ago I had no idea we would adopt Vladik. Now this post means more than ever to me. There are many different great responses to the orphan issue, and your response will likely be different than mine. But for the sake of our Boys, every response is important.

The work we do, and Mission to Ukraine has done for many years at Romaniv is important and necessary. It is life-altering for our Boys. Boys who were once strangers that flinched at touch and cowered from any human interaction are now dear loved ones who come scooting and crawling and hobbling as soon as they hear our voices. One boy who used to avoid eye contact at all cost now seeks out our gaze and will sit forehead to forehead with Jed as the guitar is played- just looking into Jed’s eyes. No words, just a look. It is enough for us to see that God is doing miracles.

And yet.

No work we do could ever be more beneficial than a family.

No treatment could ever be as effective as the love of a family.

No weighted vest could be more comforting than a mother’s arms.

No helmet could offer better protection than a father’s embrace.

This work we do is a stopgap. It is the next best thing possible in this situation. But it is not a family, and it is not nearly enough. There is no future for our Boys here. Even when our dreams come true and we build group homes where they can be loved and cared for, it still won’t hold a candle to a life spent as part of a loving family. There are nannies at Romaniv that do care for the Boys deeply, but they face an impossible task. How can 2 nannies care for more than 20 boys with severe disabilities and do an even satisfactory job?

Most of the boys and men at Romaniv are not legally free to be adopted. Either their parents still maintain their parental rights, or the boys are over the age of 18 which prevents them from being adopted. To those boys and men we commit to doing whatever we possibly can to love them, care for them, and give them a future worth living until they day they are made whole in heaven.

Some of our Boys, though, ARE available for international adoption. After some hesitation, and prayerful consideration we shared them with you. There are many layers to this. We feel protective of our Boys and the work that is being done; we want to avoid any exploitation; we have a relationship to maintain with the orphanage directors that requires vigilant care. Nothing about this is simple, so we have been treading lightly with steps full of prayer. And yet, our boys are just not thriving, and they never ever will in an institution. They need families. ALL our boys need families, but Alex, Micah, Stephan, Aaron, Ben and Isaiah actually have the opportunity for family- a life saving opportunity.

So I’m asking that you see our Boys. I’m asking that you stop and see them for the treasures they are. See their immense value. See their precious beauty. Consider their lives as weighty as your own and ask the Lord how you should respond to this knowledge that some of them are waiting for families. If you follow Jesus you are called to care for the orphan in some way. Even if you don’t believe in Jesus I bet you can agree that this is a justice issue that can not be ignored.

“Learn to do right; seek justice.

Defend the oppressed.

Take up the cause of the fatherless;

plead the case of the widow.” Isaiah 1:17

Maybe you are supposed to pray. A million times thank you! Prayer is important and essential. Any of the progress that’s been made has only come through the power of the Holy Spirit. Our Boys need prayer!

Maybe you are supposed to give financially to help improve the quality of life for our Boys. Yes! Thank you so very much! None of this would even be happening if we didn’t have faithful financial supporters on the team.
Maybe you are supposed to adopt. Please don’t dismiss this response. I am confident that some of you who read this are called to respond through adoption. Children were made for families! Children were not made for institutions. One hour spent at the institution will prove that point. I must warn you though that any romanticism concerning the adoption of one of our Boys ends with the fuzzy feelings you may be feeling as you read this post. It will not be romantic. It will be a hard road and much faith will be required. But- it will be a road worth walking. I am confident of that. Orphans are very important to our God and He has gone to great lengths to prove His love for these particular Boys. He will not allow the world to forget them now, and He’s not about to forget them when they step out of Romaniv’s gates.

I have spent hours with these boys. I have held them in my arms. I have kissed their cheeks. I have held their hands so they won’t harm themselves. Now I call one of them my son and he is asleep, warm and safe in the next room. They are real people. They were created with purpose and God has good plans for them. When I look at Vladik now and think of the life he lived there and was destined to live for the rest of his days had he not been adopted I can’t help but cry. Friends, he is precious. He is a joy in our lives. He is smart and funny and loving and worthy of this life he’s been given. All the love and attention and cuddles we can heap on him- he deserves them all. Hopes and dreams of retirement and empty-nester days fall flat when weighed against the life of a child.

There you have it. Now you know, and I now I humbly ask you to respond. I ask you to stop and pray and ask the Lord what He would have you to do. Say yes and don’t look back. Please pray that adoptive families would step out with boldness and faith. Any serious inquiries can be emailed to kjohnson@wideawakeinternational.org and I would be happy to talk with you more.

Please share this post and give our Boys a voice this month. Thank you!
“Speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves, for the rights of all who are destitute.” Proverbs 31:8

Alex, Micah, Stephan, Aaron, Isaiah, and Ben all wait for families of their own. A friend of ours is doing a wonderful fundraiser/giveaway to help raise adoption grants for them, so that when their families do step up the expense will be defrayed a bit. If you feel that your response is to give financially, then please, please visit this website and drop some dollars in their accounts. Thank you!

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Stephan

Aaron

Isaiah

Ben

All About Vladik

Posted on October 6, 2015 by kimnjed

Our Vladik (aka Vladchik, Vlad, Sonichko, Lyubime…and on and on) has been home with us for 12 days now and it sorta feels like it’s been forever. He is just the perfect fit for us and we are the perfect fit for him. It’s like it was always meant to be.

After 15 years in institutions, and the last 11 at Romaniv- in one hallway, he is doing AMAZING. It’s actually pretty miraculous. We aren’t sure all what Vladik does and doesn’t understand, but one thing is for sure: He was READY for a family. From the day he left Romaniv with Jed in his new clothes and shoes he has never called us “Jed and Kim” again, only “Papa and Mama”. He knows. It’s a miracle.

Here’s the lowdown, for all the Vladik-lovers out there. 🙂

Siblings. Vladik is SO SO SOOOOOOOO happy to have siblings!!!! He absolutely loves them all, being especially partial to the boys. He likes to take them to school and walk them to their classrooms. He gets super excited when it’s time to go pick up Hava and Seth (half-day kinders). Like, even if he is on the swing (his most favorite thing), he’ll gladly pause if it means going to pick up the kids. When he sees them standing in line with their class he runs over and gives them big hugs. Vladik and Seth are great friends! Finally Seth has someone who’s interested in cars and balls and all things BOY! When Vladik and Seth are both home they are playing together constantly, joined at the hip. They are truly God’s gift to each other.

Sleep. Bringing home a newly adopted child is a lot like bringing home a newborn from the hospital. Everything changes, the new “baby” requires a lot of mommy and daddy’s attention, you spend a lot of time figuring out eating and pooping habits (not so fun with a 15 year old..hehe..but then, is dealing with another person’s poop ever fun??). But, I gotta say, after 8 straight years of constant newborns (foster and bio), I can fullyappreciate Vladik’s amazing sleep habits. He is a GREAT sleeper!!!

For now, Vladik sleeps in his own bed in the room with Jed and me. It just makes good sense to have him close to us at night, for his own sense of security and our peace of mind, until we feel the time is right to move him in with the other kiddos. He goes to sleep easily and he sleeps all night. The only issue, and it’s a big one, is sleep apnea. Sleep apnea is a common problem with kiddos with Apert Syndrome, and we have big concerns about it for our Vladik. He snores loud all night long. He can’t really breathe through his nose, so that’s an issue too. He sleeps with his back arched and his head thrown back, which is a common position for kids who are struggling to get air. He stops breathing and hacks and coughs all night long. Making it possible for him to sleep safely is our number one medical priority for Vladik.

We have a great routine of a nightly shower and then massage before bed. The other night he said “Papa, I’m going to sleep with mama tonight. You sleep alone over there.” hahahahahaha! What a sweetie.

Language. Vladik’s language is exploding! He literally does not stop talking. We aren’t speaking English to Vladik at all, we’re just sticking to Ukrainian. If we were going to be living in the US we would start teaching him English, but there’s really no point since we are going back to Ukraine. He is surrounded by English, since our family speaks that to each other all the time at home, so I’m sure he’ll pick it up. But really, it is in everyone’s best interest to keep Vladik speaking Ukrainian. We are improving our skills and he isn’t losing his. Win win. 🙂 Vladik’s speech is super hard to understand, due to all the structural issues with his face, but we are understanding him better all the time. I don’t know if that’s because his speech is improving or because we are just used to “Vladik speech”. Either way, he is able to make his needs and wants understood, and we are able to communicate just fine.

Food. This is the hardest thing at this point. Vladik is used to eating the same 4-5 foods every.single.day. There is not much texture in the Romaniv food because many of the boys have swallowing problems and very few teeth with which to chew. Feeding time at Romaniv is CRAZY town. But, I digress. 🙂 Anyway, Vladik has a hard time with new textures and new flavors. So, the struggle is to find foods he’ll eat without me having to cook two different meals all the time. (Ain’t nobdy got time for that!) If I have a pot of mashed potatoes and a pot of soup in the fridge to fall back on, then all is well. But heaven forbid we should run out of mashed potatoes! 😉 We’re just trying to slowly intro new foods and at least make him try them before flat out rejecting them. It’s hard to know which struggles are sensory and which are structural. Baby steps, baby steps.

Medical. Last week we started Vladik’s medical journey and it’s gonna be a long one, folks. We had an appointment with our primary pediatrician and she basically referred us to every specialist known to man: neurosurgery, genetics, ear-nose-throat, Shriners for hands and feet, craniofacial, dentistry, ophthalmology, radiology (for scoliosis x-rays), occupational therapy, and speech pathology/feeding. The referrals have been made, so now we just wait for everyone to call us to schedule appointments. Let’s get this party started!

Social/Attachment. Our Vladik is one smart cookie. He understands that we are his family and he belongs with us. He is appropriately shy with new people and there is no danger of him wanting to walk off with some random person. He’s a naturally cautious kiddos, so he’s also not really a “wanderer”. During the adoption process we prayed that God would pepare Vladik’s heart for a family and He has totally answered that prayer. The boys at Romaniv have absolutely ZERO concept of what a family is. They never seen family modeled to them. They have no books about families. They are completely isolated from society and most have never experienced family life. So Vladik’s entry to our family is something we were super curious about. But he gets it. He really does. We have been building this bond for a couple of years now, so that has made everything a whole heck of a lot easier. He already knew us and we were already the “good guys” in his life. He accepts affection and is starting to be the one to initiate affection more every day.

As far as Vladik being 15 years old, and coming from a really horrible environment, and being in the home with our little kids, we are not worried. He is definitely the youngest, developmentally, and does not at all take on a dominating role. That’s just not his personality. We are taking appropriate precautions though, and we know we need to be wise. We have seen where he came from. 🙁 For instance, for now Vladik sleeps in our room. We always have the kids in earshot or in our line of sight when they are playing. We are trying to teach our other kids a bit more modesty (they’re not very good about that here at home) 🙂 and explaining to them why it’s important that we be modest in front of Vladik: “To teach him how he should behave in a family…” But all in all, we have no big concerns. He is appropriate and very much still a little boy. We knew that about him before we ever decided to bring him into our family.

Emotional/Spiritual. Vladik is absolutely amazing. He is a miracle. How in the world did he keep his joy throughout all he endured? He is ALWAYS happy. He is the light of our family’s lives. He is thoughtful and obedient (most of the time) and pure sunshine. He brings us immense joy.

The only time he has really acted out was at the doctor’s office. He was very nervous and stressed. He wouldn’t listen and was acting so crazy- as in, I’ve never ever seen him like that before. Then he started talking. He spoke of Romaniv and people there, things they did. To each other. To him. Our hearts were broken. To the average person, it’s hard to imagine, by looking at our boy, how immensely he has suffered. I can almost forget it myself. And then he talks. Then we remember that one month of freedom doesn’t erase 11 years in hell on earth. His journey to complete healing will be a long one, but he is already well on his way.

Many people have asked us if Vladik misses Romaniv or his friends there. It’s a good question, especially when so many people love our Boys there so deeply and associate that love with “Romaniv” as a whole. But I have to tell you, that to ask that question is to not understand what Romaniv truly is. I don’t say that to look down my nose at you, or to shame the askers, I’m just saying that if you spent 10 minutes just observing Romaniv life, not playing there, but just observing, you would never even wonder about that question. Life at Romaniv consist of fences, walls, benches, neglect, abuse, survival of the fittest, and horrors most of us would never imagine even exist in this present time. NO person, let alone child, should have to stay even one night there.

You all know how deeply committed we are to Romaniv. You know that we have hope for change and we are committed to change there. You know we love the boys, and we also love the staff and administration. We do! God has called us there- to give our lives to these boys, these nannies, these directors. And because of that deep love and commitment I feel I can speak honestly and frankly about the reality. I hope you understand.

This morning Vladik was looking at the pictures on our fridge of some of the boys and he saw the Isolation Hall, his home for 11 years, in the picture. He pointed to the window that he used to spend hours staring out of and said “My bedroom.” I said “Yes, you used to sleep there, but not now!” He just looked at the picture and said “I don’t like that room. I don’t want that room. Foo! (Ukrainian for ‘yuck!’) It’s bad! I don’t want that picture.” Then with a glance at me for permission, he took the picture off the fridge and handed it to me. “All done!” He said. Then I asked him to show me his bedroom. We ran into our room and flopped down on the comfy bed, all giggles and cuddles.

That’s right. All done, sweet baby. You’ve got your whole life in front of you. 🙂

Did you know several other boys at Romaniv are available for adoption? They can have the same future as Vladik, if only a few brave families will step up and say yes. Could you be one of the rescuers? You can read about the boys here and here. Please, read about them with an open heart and see what God might say. Thank you!

Together At Last

Posted on September 28, 2015 by kimnjed

Our family of seven is together at last. Vladik and Jed arrived from Ukraine on Thursday night. The wait is over!! After months of loving our Vladik and leaving him behind a gate, he is out and ours forever. We are so full of joy.

So it’s been 4 days home together and I’m just in awe that he’s really here.

Vladik sitting at our kitchen table. Vladik shooting hoops in the driveway with Seth. Vladik shopping with us at Winco. Vladik on the carousel. Vladik at church. Vladik NOT at Romaniv.

He loves to play, watch cars, and take showers. After 15 years of constant filth and neglect, he just beams when he knows he is clean.

It’s like a dream.

He’s doing awesome. Of course there are adjustments to be made and there have been a few tears, as we all process yet ANOTHER transition, but in general he just fits us like a glove. This is a love that has grown and developed over two years, so there is a lot that is natural about it.

I’ll talk more about the details of his adjustment later in the week, I just wanted to let you know that he is home and we are blessed. I can say with complete honesty that we are eternally grateful and humbled that God gave Vladik to us. He is a precious soul that has been hidden away for far too long, and we are the ones that get to watch him come to life. It’s the best thing ever.

Every day, multiple times a day, Vladik asks each member of our family if we love him. “Mama, do you love me? Papa, do you love me? Addy, do you love me? Ezra, do you love me? Hava, do you love me? Seth, do you love me?” When we answer that yes, we love him forever, he laughs and claps his hands with joy. That love, that belonging, all of our Boys deserve that. My heart breaks that even though Vladik is out, they remain.

A wise adoptive mama friend said this, and it is also my heart’s cry:

“I have become convinced that to be indifferent, to do nothing, to ignore, to refuse to act, to stand back and allow broken and wounded populations to continue to suffer…this is the great sin of our lifetime. We are a generation of emotionally paralyzed people, and thus our behaviors become paralyzed. We spend so much time waiting for a sign, a signal, a calling…that we forget to DO. This simply must change. We as humans, as fellow travelers in this life, in this moment, must work, and work HARD to change what is unjust. The moment is now. Stalling has only ever cost us liberties, time, and lives. The procrastination just isn’t worth the price.

GO and DO.

Change the world.

Change a life, and in so doing change YOUR life.

Pay attention to the brokenness.

Give generously.

Love big and refuse to look back.

Even when it is hard, you will never regret it”

A Love Story, Part 3

Posted on September 4, 2015 by kimnjed

This is Part 3 in our adoption story. You can read Part One here and Part Two here!

After camp Jed and I both began to see Vladik differently. Our hearts toward him were changing, but it wasn’t something we talked about with each other. We both just knew in our hearts we had a special love for him. Honestly, every person who serves at Romaniv has their “favorite”. Ha! You know, that one boy that you just connect with in a special way. My “favorite” changes from week to week. 😉

Separately, Jed and I both began to think more and more about Vladik. Our love for him grew and grew. Separately, we started to wonder if God had something more for us and Vladik together. We didn’t know even what that would mean. We didn’t know how old Vladik was (it’s impossible to guess the ages of the boys at Romaniv), if he was even available for adoption (only 9 boys out of 86 at Romaniv can be adopted), or what God had in mind. Then, over time we both, separately (great communication skills, eh?), began to feel like God was maybe asking us to consider adoption. Holy smokes. Scary thought. It’s one thing to love Vladik at Romaniv and camp. It’s a whole other thing to love him in our home, as our son, for the rest of his life.

In October Jed and I began to talk about Vladik together. We both shared with the other our musings about adoption and laughed about how crazy it sounded to bring pursue adopting one of our boys while continuing to live in Ukraine. Was it even possible? I mean, all of our boys have so many needs, could we raise Vladik here and continue to be effective in the work God has called us to? Was Vladik even adoptable? What about our other kiddos? Were there any safety concerns for them? Would a family need to live in America to be able to adequately care for Vladik’s medical needs? How could we afford an international adoption while living on raised support? Would it be possible to do an American adoption from Ukraine while living in Ukraine? So much to pray about and consider. We decided to keep those thoughts to ourselves for the time being and just wait on the Lord. We knew that if He wanted Vladik to join our family He would speak to us.

The very next morning, after we had first talked about our love for Vladik we got an email from a dear friend in Switzerland. She told us that she had had a dream about us and felt like she was supposed to share, even if it sounded strange to us. She dreamed that she was coming to visit us in Ukraine and we were so excited because we were adopting two boys from Romaniv! In the end we ended up adopting one boy, but then before we could get back to adopt the other one he passed away. 🙁

Of course we didn’t know what the whole dream meant, but wow. What an encouragement from the Lord that he would speak to us through our friend about adoption when we had told NO ONE our hearts! Shortly after that we found out from the assistant director of the institution that Vladik was one of the few boys available for adoption! Oh my.

Then came November, a really dark time for us. We began to learn more about what makes Romaniv the way it is. Jed always says “Romaniv didn’t get the way it is from everybody doing their best job.” Ain’t that the truth. The plain and simple truth is that the enemy has kept that place in darkness for far too long, and he doesn’t plan to give it up easily. This work we do is absolutely our dream come true. We couldn’t imagine doing anything else, yet this work comes with plenty of pain and heartache. All is not lollipops and roses. We try to be very positive about what we share on social media about the Boys and our work. It’s not like we’re dishonest or anything, it’s just very important to us that we always maintain the boys’ dignity, and to remember hope when we share. Our boys have had everything stolen from them. We will not go in and steal their dignity as well. Honestly though, the more and more time we spend at Romaniv, the more and more layers of ugliness we uncover. That’s just bound to happen. In that regard, November was just plain rough on our spirits. It was not pretty. We couldn’t manage to think of much except putting one foot in front of the other. The weight of injustice became almost too much to bear. Adoption dreams were on the backburner.

Then two of our boys that we love VERY much were sent to a hospital several hours away and were lost to us. The Director said they would be gone for at least a year, and “maybe forever”. It felt like a death. We just arrived one day and they were gone. Oh the tears. We were devastated because we knew those boys would not understand what was happening. Would they be scared? Would they be treated well? Then we remembered our friend’s dream. One of the boys that was sent away, Valera, was Vladik’s only real “peer” in the Isolation Hall. He was the one other boy that would try to play a little, and the two of them were attached at the hip. One of our big issues with adopting Vladik was knowing we could never take him away and leave Valera behind, but Valera was too old to be adopted. When we first started talking about adopting we had discussed trying to get guardianship of Valera and were really thinking we could find a way to take him home too, and then he was gone. Just like the dream. So, so sad. Maybe this adoption idea was too much for our hearts to take on.

Sweet Valera

December came and we prepared to make a couple Christmas videos for Wide Awake, to introduce people to two of our boys. Jed decided to feature Boris in his video because they have a really special connection. I couldn’t decide who to feature in mine! After lots of indecision I decided to feature Vladik in my video because my deepest connection was with him, and I hoped maybe his family would discover him by watching the video. Jed and I had basically stopped talking about adopting him ourselves, so if he couldn’t be ours I made it my mission to find him a family of his own.

Thousands of people saw the videos of Boris and Vladik. 🙂 Only a few days passed and a family wrote an email inquiring about adopting him! My heart leaped and sank at the same time when I read their email. Is that even possible? It sure felt like it. We wanted a family for him so badly, but oh man, I had so hoped it would be us. Whenever our kids would watch the video of Vladik (which they were slightly obsessed with) Havalah would say “But Mommy, we don’t really want him to be adopted right? Because then we would never get to see him anymore!” She said it every.single.time. Anyway, I got over myself 😉 and was truly excited to get that inquiry about Vladik, but then we found out that the interested parents were too young to adopt Vladik. They were only 12 years older than him, and by Ukrainian law adoptive parents have to be at least 15 years older than the child they are adopting. Back to the drawing board, loving our boy more than ever after seeing how many people responded to his preciousness in the video.

Then one morning in January Jed woke up early and felt like God spoke to him super clearly, “So, when are you gonna finally move forward with adopting Vladik?” Uuuuuuh now, I guess???? Ha! Jed came and told me he felt like we were supposed to go for it, and that was that. I mean, we loved him, he needed a family, it was really a no-brainer. All of our reasons for saying no seemed absolutely fearful and selfish and lame. Our baby was right in front of our faces and he needed his mommy and daddy. We sought wisdom from our parents, our pastor, and a few friends, and they were all completely supportive and completely not surprised. 🙂 In mid-January we began working on documents, and on August 31st Vladik became our son.

It might have taken 15 years, but Vladik is finally found. We pray and believe that God will use Vladik to be a voice for those who are yet to be rescued. We pray and believe that God will use our family, and our adoption story to show Ukrainian people the value of our Boys. It’s awesome, God has spoken to us, and to many others that Vladik is going to bring our family so much joy. We know that of course there are bound to be some rough moments ahead, but we just keep getting the word “JOY”. As Jed and I drove away from court after the judge declared Vladik was our son we had tears streaming down our faces: “How is it that God saved Vladik for us? How did we get to be the lucky ones?”

He is so valuable. He is so beautiful. He is our baby and we are the happiest, most blessed family in the world.