On Going Home

Why would refugees decide to return home to a war zone? It’s a good question that I myself would have probably asked just a year ago. Now we are those refugees returning home to a war zone and it feels like the most obvious thing to do. It feels like the thing that makes sense. It feels right. It’s time. Yes, we and our team have decided to return to our home in Ukraine. Our Board of Directors is in agreement and have voted to that end.

There are so many reasons why people who have fled from war choose to return and I can’t pretend to know the mind and heart of every refugee. I can only speak for myself and the people closest to me. We have rehashed this a bazillion and one times and there are many reasons why we could stay in Germany, but there are so many more reasons why we should go home. We are blessed beyond measure that we even have a home to which we can return. When we left I wasn’t sure it would be the case. But as of today, our home still stands and awaits our return. We’ve explained here on the blog and in recent Youtube videos why life here in Germany has become unsustainable for our group, but that is not the only reason we have decided to leave. I know that returning isn’t the right decision for everyone, but it is the right decision for us, so I thought I would try to explain it to you.

Regardless of War, Home is Home. We have lived in Ukraine for coming up on nine years. Our children consider Ukraine their home in every sense of the word. As a family, we don’t really belong in the US anymore. Jed and I can feel more at home there than our kids because we both lived there for more than 30 years, but still, every time we return it feels more and more foreign. We moved to Ukraine when Obama was still president! So much has changed in the US, but also so much has changed in us. We are not the same people who left Portland, OR with 9 suitcases all those years ago. (For one thing, now Jed has less hair and I have gray hair…😅)

Our little piece of the world, the Homestead, is the only place on earth where our family truly feels at home. We have lived a hundred lives in Ukraine, brought Ukrainians into our family, our kids call themselves Ukrainians, yet we know we will never truly be Ukrainian. Those closest to us, our team, don’t see us as “The Americans”. We are simply their family. But I know other Ukrainians don’t see us that way. There have been so many times here in Germany when I have been out and about in town and have heard Ukrainians around me. I always wanted to walk up to them, to talk with them, to feel that closeness with them, but the few times I tried they were only confused. Why was this American acting like she was one of them? Like she understood their plight? We will never be Ukrainians, but we don’t feel much like Americans. Yes, I know, heaven is our home. But here on earth, our plot of land in our village in Ukraine is our home, and we desperately want to be there again. It is where we are known, where we are understood, and where we are accepted as one of the family. We simply want to be home.

We Want to Stand With Our Country. I know there is such a thing as compassion fatigue and that it is real. There is only so much one person can actively care about day in and day out. I know the attention span of the world is incredibly short and Ukraine’s moment in the spotlight has just about run its course. But while the rest of the world can move along to the next big thing, while most people have the luxury of putting their phone down or simply turning off the tv and forgetting for a while, we don’t have that luxury. Every hour of every day we are thinking about Ukraine and the war. It is all-consuming. But we live in a country where life moves on like normal. That is no slam on Germany! Of course, life moves on. My life has always moved on regardless of wars happening in other countries. I get it. But now our lives don’t get to move on. We go through the motions and watch the seasons change, but our hearts and minds are stuck on February 24th- the day when the world fell apart. We don’t want to be in a world where life goes on like normal and we are mute spectators with our feet stuck in the muddy mess of things. We want to be in a place where we are standing strong in solidarity with others. We want to be in a place where people understand. We want to show up for our country.

The Work Must Continue. The vision of Wide Awake International is to bring hope, love, and dignity to people with disabilities in Ukraine. That vision is lived out through deinstitutionalization. Guys, we have to get back to work. The need for this work didn’t stop because Putin decided to invade. The plight of people with disabilities who are wasting away in institutions hasn’t changed or gone away simply because it has become less safe for us to go to them. The reality is actually quite the opposite. Our boys at Romaniv and others like them need rescuing now more than ever. Our work has always been a frontline work and now is a frontline time. We must not retreat. Ukraine needs helpers and our team is full of them. There is no way for us to continue our mission while in Germany. Yes, we brought Yaroslav and Vova out of Romaniv to us in Germany, but that is the limit of what we can do from here. We simply must get back to work in Ukraine. There is no other way. This is hands-on, boots-on-the-ground work, and our boys can not wait alone for the war to end. We must go to them. While the eyes of the world are on Ukraine and while more people are becoming disabled each day we have to be in there, helping, advising, lending experience. We feel the urgency in our bones. This is what we were created for and the work must go on.

Our Goal is Not to Stay Alive. A dear friend reminded me recently of an important truth: “Our greatest goal in life is not just to stay alive.” If our goal is to keep our bodies alive, then we will all eventually fail because every one of us will eventually die. Our goal is not just to stay alive, but to LIVE. Yes, here in Germany our bodies are safe and they are alive. But in a way, we are not truly living. And while we are here not doing the things we are passionate about it feels like we are slowly withering away. Of course, there have been many beautiful, precious, wonderful moments in Germany. We have lived here, but we have not lived to the fullest. It’s like we’ve been stuck in a waiting room. Waiting for the next meal or the next news story or the next distraction. We have been busy caring for our boys, but we know we can do so much more. Our spirits are so much more alive when we are fulfilling our mission, when we are creating something beautiful together, when there is redemption and light moving into dark places. Of course, it goes without saying that we don’t desire death. I don’t want to die anytime soon and I don’t want that for any of my loved ones. But keeping our bodies alive is not the highest goal. Because at one time or another we will all die. In the meantime, let us be doing the things we love.

“If we are all going to be destroyed by an atomic bomb, let that bomb when it comes find us doing sensible and human things —praying, working, teaching, reading, listening to music, bathing the children, playing tennis, chatting to our friends over a pint and a game of darts—not huddled together like frightened sheep and thinking about bombs. They may break our bodies (any microbe can do that) but they need not dominate our minds.”

– C.S. Lewis Present Concerns

We would really appreciate so much your prayers as we make the move back to Ukraine. So many of you absolutely flooded the heavens with prayers as we were leaving Ukraine and since we’ve been in Germany. We are very, very thankful. Thank you for standing behind us. I know not all of you will understand this decision to leave physical safety and return to Ukraine, but I hope you will stick with us on the journey home. We are excited to get back to work in Ukraine. Your encouragement and support mean a lot to us, even though we can’t always reply to each one of you individually. This community is truly the best.

If you would like more details about our decision-making process, please feel free to check out these notes from our board chairman. For those of you who like details, it might help you understand how we and our board reached this decision.

Love to you, dear friends. Thank you for trusting us and loving us through this time.

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  1. Julie R · June 30, 2022

    🙏🏼 I will be storming the gates of heaven as your family and team travel

    • Mary Jill Callery · June 30, 2022

      I have been watching daily for this update! I am so glad that the renewed attack on 6/25 has not deterred you! I feel not only peace in your decision but relief!!! Praying for a timely exit, smooth travels and joyful arrival! May God provide all you need for your return! Every blessing & prayers for all!!!

      • kimnjed · August 26, 2022

        Late reply, but thank you!!! Love your message 🙂

    • kimnjed · August 26, 2022

      Thank you for your prayers. Late reply, I know, but we are still thankful!

  2. Bruce · June 30, 2022

    We are praying for you !!!!!!

    • kimnjed · August 26, 2022

      Thank you so much!

  3. Jaime Lowe · June 30, 2022

    I understand.. my boy, who I have been trying to adopt for 6 years is still in Ukraine too. I have offered to come help, but it is difficult to get in. If the Lord opened the door, for me to go, I would.

    Heavenly Father, I pray You will watch over Kim and Jed, and the group, as they transition home. Be their refuge and foundation. Protect each one. Give them strength and courage. May their return be multiplied in providing and helping so many. Lord, You are the Way Maker. I ask You make the perfect way for each one. Thank You Father for their obedience, and the unconditional love they show to so many. In Jesus name, Amen.

    • kimnjed · August 26, 2022

      Thank you Jaime!

  4. Ann Marie Bicknell · June 30, 2022

    So thrilled that you’re going back! Will be praying for safety and transition and excited to hear all the continues back in Ukraine!

    • kimnjed · August 26, 2022

      I know I’m late to reply, but thank you for your continued prayer and support!

  5. Sarah Schmid · June 30, 2022

    We continue to pray for all of you. May God continue to give you all peace and strength as you continue on the path before you.

    • kimnjed · August 26, 2022

      Thank you so much Sarah! Thank you for continuing to pray. It means a lot to us.

  6. Dara Buczynsky · June 30, 2022

    This seems so ‘right’ in the midst of a world gone so wrong. I am praying with you and for you as you go home. I love the thought that ‘Our goal
    In life isn’t just to stay alive’. A good goal 😂 but as Christian’s, not THE goal (easy for me to say sitting safely in my home in America, I know).
    God bless you and keep you and make His face shine upon you and give you PEACE.

    • kimnjed · August 26, 2022

      I know I’m late, but thank you for that message. It was super encouraging.

  7. Elizabeth Coudare · June 30, 2022

    Cheering you on and sending prayers from here in Stayton, Oregon. As a momma, you go where your kids need you – no questions asked. I understand that and support your decision.

    • kimnjed · August 26, 2022

      A little late for the reply, but thank you so much for that wonderful encouragement!

  8. Robert Johnson · July 6, 2022

    I have been praying for you and I believe this is the right decision. Life is so much fuller when you walk in His call. We continue to pray proud of you.

    • kimnjed · August 26, 2022

      Thank you for that encouragement! I read it earlier but forgot to reply. We love you.

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